Dear someone who… Well, at least care enough to read,
I’ve heard a common phrase that more or less says, “how can you love someone if you dont learn to love yourself”. At first I totally agreed to this, but now I’m most certain doubt it.
What I believe that whether or not you agreed to this idea but human are a social creature. So it is impossible for us to live alone. We need at least someone to be interacted with. Even if just to chat, to ask for a help, or even to force him/her to do something. Bad or good, I’m not here to judge. The bottom line that we do need others to live our life.
Now here’s the catch. The term and activity of “Loving yourself” can lead either to selfish (negative) or independent (positive). How can you sleep well while others somewhere in other part of the world are misserable looking for a decent warm place to sleep. Think about it, by doing so, isn’t that mean that you are selfish? How can you justify of that being truth and admitting that you love all those poor people who struggle just for a warmth place to spend a night? The bottom line: you can sleep well, they can’t; you can eat delicious food, they can’t. Cliche maybe, but admit it that it’s true.
Still thinking that you love them in above all your gift to sleep and eat good food?
Now, what I realize is that. You dont have to love yourself in order to love someone. When you give a person something that they need even thought we also do need that that will end up you having a noble heart. Sacrificing yourself for others… That what makes you a hero. And by knowing that they happy because of your good deed, that will make you feel good as well; and happy to that extent.
With you are in the state of happiness, you will inject your body with a good spirit, enthusiasm, and positive mind and emotion. Therefore by loving someone and do things to others it is the key to love yourself. Dont deny it, I know you agreed.
So please, keep doing stuff to others. Focus on other people happiness. These other people could be your kids, family, or even unknown stranger. Doesnt matter who they are because every people do need help in one way or another.
And when someone wants to do something for you, just smile and accept the good deed from him/her even though you dont like someone doing something for you. This is because probably this person is trying to be a good person by helping you. Do you really think you have a guts to make him/her miserable by rejecting his/her good deed? Think again..
There’s a brotip that I agree:
brotip#1417 success is not measured by what you change in yourself, but what you change in others, bro.
Hence, if I may correct the phrase of the first paragraph, it should be: “you’ll be loving yourself by doing something to others”
Thank you for reading…
